This is a quick entry written on my iPhone, from my bed, so if weird phrasing, that is why. (Editing is so much easier with a regular keyboard.)
Long story short:
Three houses up, a woman moved in with her two kids. I discovered a week ago that it was the mother of a boy who is in my biggest son’s daycare.
Today the boys played for the first time, and the mother came down and had coffee. It was clear, she needed to unload and talk to someone who knew where she was at and who had been there.
She asked why me and my ex got divorced. I said ‘Well, at the end of the day, we were just too different. He was too soft, and I was too … I dunno, I think I need a stronger man.’ She just did this: O.O
It turns out, it was the exact same for her. She said some things, that I have phrased the -exact- same way to some of my friends with whom I have talked to, to work through my divorce.
She went on: ‘I just felt like he didn’t have any drive in him. I’d ask him: Isn’t there something you want to do? To learn? Don’t you have any dreams for yourself?’ And no, he didn’t really have that.
I asked my ex the -exact- same. A man without a goal (and apparently, autocorrect thought it was more fitting with ‘a man without a goat’ :P), without fire, without passion for -something-, just … Becomes a robot.
She had to be the father and the mother. She had to be everything and when she met someone at her work, who made things happen, who had drive, were able to make decisions, she slowly ended up having an affair with that man. Husband found out, she quit the affair, couple’s counselling … And it still didn’t work. What makes me lose respect in her soon-to-be exhusband, is that he is using the kids to get to her. Crying in front of them, telling them details that is not for small kids to hear. The daycare had to be heard for the court (cause that’s how grim that divorce got), and they stated that the kids were very affected and knew all too many details. I’m not condoning infidelity, I would leave in a heartbeat if anyone cheated on me, but using it to get the kids’ sympathy is f*cking vile.
Anthoo, my point was: Denmark is in dire need of more Alphas. If you are one and moved here, as soon as you entered the country, it’d be like an all-you-can-eat buffet. Just sayin’.
Goodnight America, whereever you are.